If you're newly engaged or you know the question is bound to be popped soon – you might be wanting a few tips to help you navigate this exciting, yet short season of life. The do's, do not's, and I wish I would have's can be very real – so we want to make this process a bit easier to navigate with ten things we wish we would have known before planning the big day.
Pictured above: The Audrey Dress
1. At the end of the day – you will be married to the love of your life, and THAT'S what matters most.
It can be so easy to get wrapped up in the details and moving parts of your wedding. At times, it can even be overwhelming. Whenever you feel yourself getting stressed or anxious – stop and remember that your wedding is ONE day and your marriage is a LIFETIME.
Even if everything doesn't go exactly according to plan, at the end of the day you will be married. Remember: your wedding day will be beautiful regardless of what happens because your wedding day is a celebration of you and your spouse's lives being joined together!
2. Ask for help
The worst and hardest thing you can do to yourself is trying to plan your wedding all by yourself. A wedding involves lots of decisions (even ones you don't realize you have to make until you're faced with it) and going about it alone will only leave you worn and burnt out.
Ask your maid of honor, MOB, MOG, or any others who are willing to lend a hand. Even something as simple as addressing envelopes helps a ton!
3. Hire a wedding planner or day-of coordinator
If you don't want to hire a full wedding planner, give yourself some love and hire or find someone to coordinate the day of the wedding. You don't want people running to you during the wedding to make decisions.
Your wedding day should be a time of focusing on the day and marrying your love – not making last-minute decisions or problem-solving. Your wedding planner or the day-of coordinator will know exactly how to handle those problems you won't want to deal with on the day of the wedding.
4. Remember to take some time for yourself
It's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of wedding planning and totally forget to take care of yourself (trust us, we've all been there!) Set aside time each week where you do something you love and you don't think about or plan for the wedding.
Trust us, this will help you and your fiancé keep your sanity!
5. Still go on dates with your fiancé
In the middle of constant meet-ups to flesh out the wedding details, it can seem like your regular, weekly dates have been put on the back burner with everything else non-wedding! We want to encourage you to still continue going on weekly dates even when planning gets hectic!
This will help you both reconnect and re-focus on what's most important to the both of you.
6. Go with the flow
This one might be the hardest to uphold – especially if you've had your wedding planned on Pinterest since you were a little girl! Going with the flow might seem like the last thing you're able to do when things get a bit crazy.
Trust us on this one – when you're able to just "let it happen," and get married on your wedding day, you'll be happier in the end. You'll be able to look back and realize you "let it happen," and it all turned out okay!
7. Something will go wrong
We believe it's better to just nail this one down right here – something will inevitably go wrong on your wedding day, but guess what?! It's gonna be OKAY.
When you are managing multiple vendors, people, and tons of moving parts – that's a lot to keep up with! No matter what happens, go in with this mindset: "At the end of today, we will be married and no matter what happens today – I will not let it ruin the best day of my life."
You've got this girl!
8. Give yourself, your fiancé, and your parents/future in-laws some grace
Maybe you've thought of this one, maybe you haven't... but this is an important one to note! Emotions are high around the time of the wedding and here's why:
1. Big changes are happening for you and your fiancé. Whether that's moving into a house together, combining all your things, or just navigating the beginning of marriage – give yourself and your spouse some much-needed grace!
2. Mom and dad are losing their baby! It's hard for mom and dad to adjust to their child growing up, moving out and ultimately getting married. Even though they're happy for you – it's still hard. Be sensitive to their feelings and emotions.
3. Adding a new member into the family is tough! It's different, and although it is exciting – it can be a bit overwhelming with everything else going on. Give your in-laws some grace as they learn and grow with you.
9. Take a deep breath
We wish someone would have told us this towards the end of the planning process! Sometimes you just need to stop what you're doing and breathe.
You've got this!
10. Enjoy the process
Last but not least – enjoy this sweet, yet short time of being engaged and planning your wedding! It's an oh-so-sweet time that you'll be able to look back on as a married couple and cherish together!