Whether you’re a bride pondering this question or a bridesmaid trying to budget for your friend’s big day – knowing what maids pay for when it comes to pre-wedding and wedding events is super important. We’ve taken all the guesswork out of the game to give you the short and straightforward answer you’ve been searching for. Without further ado…
The host of the bridal shower is responsible for covering all costs. If the bridal party throws a shower for the bride-to-be then the cost should be split evenly between all members of the bridal party.
If a friend or close relative is showering the bride, the bridesmaids should chip in. Whether that’s offering to pick up decorations or help out in some way – bridesmaids should be partaking in some fashion to support the new bride-to-be.
All members of the bridal party should be in attendance. When accepting the offer to be in a friend’s wedding, it’s part of your responsibility to be there for the bride – this includes the bridal shower and bachelorette party!
This one might seem obvious, but a bride should never have to pay for her bachelorette party. Whether the maid-of-honor decides to cover the expenses or it’s divided among the bridesmaids – the last fling should be a celebration that the bride enjoys without the stress of expenses.
Bridesmaids can chip in by helping decorate, pay for food and snacks, or bring essentials to the event. If you’re unsure of how to help, talk with the MOH about how you can make this event successful.
Hair and Makeup
On the day of the wedding, bridesmaids are responsible for taking care of their own hair and makeup. The bride will probably hire a professional to do hers, but there will be an additional cost for other bridal party members.
If you are looking to have your hair and makeup professionally done on the wedding day, ensure that you discuss this and acquire the appropriate funds beforehand. If you’d rather keep things simple, you can always do your hair and makeup yourself, or have another bridal party member help out!
It is the responsibility of the bridesmaid to obtain her attire for the wedding day. This includes but is not limited to dress, shoes, jewelry, and any other items. She is also responsible for making sure the dress fits properly!
If you are in need of alterations, make sure you get these done early in case you run into any issues. Not having a bridesmaid dress in time, or having a dress that doesn’t fit properly is a huge stressor for a bride-to-be!
If travel is necessary, the bridesmaids will be responsible for costs included in travel. This also includes lodging.
If the bride provides lodging for the bridesmaids – fantastic! Don’t take this as a given, as it is customary for each guest (including the bridal party) to pay for their travel expenses.
If you are part of the bridal party, you will have at least two wedding gifts to purchase. One gift will be directly off the couple’s wedding registry.
The second gift will be for the bride’s personal bridal shower. This gift is typically lingerie or a personal gift.
Being part of the wedding day is not your gift to the couple – that is expected. Even if it’s a small gift off their registry, make sure you are doing your part to help your bride-to-be feel supported and loved.
If you’re unsure of any of the costs listed above, always reach out to the maid-of-honor. She’s the right hand for the bride-to-be and will know exactly how the money will need to be divided up.
These items are typical for a bridesmaid to cover during the pre-wedding and wedding festivities; however, if the bride chooses to pay for hair and makeup, your dress, or accommodations – take this as a gift, knowing that this is not expected but rather a gesture of thanks for her right-hand ladies. Just remember, this is a special day and being a bridesmaid is a huge honor.